You've heard that one right? I'm pretty sure it's a classic in the quote/meme world yet so many of us try and do it all the time.
Why is that?
What keeps us from taking care of ourselves first?
Is is guilt?
Are we too busy?
Is it lack of self worth?
For me it was all that and more. I believed I was too busy. I believed I wasn't worthy. I believed that if I stepped back for even a moment that I would drop one of the balls I was juggling and everything would come crashing down. The guilt of even taking a moment for just me was insurmountable. How dare I.
And then I had no choice. A hospitalization stay was my wakeup call to learn to start taking those moments and so I did. As hard as it was, I took that first moment and then another and those moments over time turned into an hour, that hour turned into a few and before I knew it I was taking full days and even consecutive days FOR ME. Because I finally understood that RECEIVING was necessary. For me to be able to function at my highest level in all areas of my life it was no longer optional. If I didn't take care of myself I would begin to die, literally or at least figuratively and for me there was no difference. I could no longer just exist, trying to survive each day and being stuck in the hamster wheel of my life. By creating moments I was creating the energy I needed to live intentionally.
Now, years later, with my understanding of energy and the harnessing of my own combined with how I show up in the world both personally and professionally while giving and receiving, MATTERS. If you are trying to pour from an empty cup the energy you are sharing is not strong, it's not pure and it's not in your highest good. You are out of balance and when this happens we open the door to many physical as well as mental and emotional issues such as depression, resentment, anger and even illnesses.
That being said I share this experience with you not for sympathy but to invite you to take a deeper look at your own existence and to think of November not only as the month of giving but also as the month of being open to receiving. You are allowed, you are worthy and you are incredibly deserving of refilling your cup.
Heck even the flight attendants tell us to put our own mask on before assisting others. Why? Because they know that we can be of service to others in a far greater capacity if we take care of ourselves first.
So plan out November as a month to refill your cup.
Get OFF your phone more and get a massage, have coffee/tea with a friend, curl up with a good book, take a yoga class, sit down to color, journal or create, meet up for a walk, explore a new hobby (or come see me)
Take this time consciously with no apologies. Know that when your cup is full your energetic frequency vibrates higher and the higher you are naturally and consciously aligned with universal energy as your own the more of an impact you can make not only your own life but the life of others too.
Receive with an open mind and an open heart. We are all worthy of receiving all the universe has to offer and more.
With love and intention in your highest good always,
Kelly McCarthy is a passionate universal energy teacher, intuitive practitioner and insightful sacred speaker located in Litchfield County, CT. Though not a published author yet, once in awhile she feels called to write about something that speaks to her.